God Save Us From Ourselves
I was listening to a renowned scholar talking about the aim of marriage, and couldn’t stop myself from trying to find out if everyone or majority of folks share his same views on the purpose of marriage, so:
Do you think that the most important aims of marriage are just ‘Companionship and breeding’?!
If your answer is yes, I think you are depriving and denying yourself from experiencing one of the most beautiful and noble emotions that has ever existed ‘Love’, and you are not doing yourself justice because you have a right to seek love, be loved and give love to your loved one.
I always loved that part of the ‘Christian/Western’ wedding vows when couples say to one another ‘To Love and Cherish!’
Just as my love to God makes me bear whatever tests he puts me through and maintain my faith, loving your other half enables you to stand solid throughout your relationship with them and face everything with them happily and firmly be it (Illness, poverty, challenge, hardship and obstacle.)
A book, cat, dog, gardening, your friends, TV, work or even yourself if you enjoy solitude can provide you with company, it is not a very wise step to marry someone because you are looking for company!
We are not machines or robots to let go of our emotions; the great ones like love, and just to your knowledge they are making now robots that can express emotions and give back love to their owner!
In Islam when describing the relationship between spouses the lord says ‘و جعلنا بينكم مودة و رحمة, meaning (and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts)), I think all religions place so much great emphasis upon love.
I have heard a number of folks especially accomplished men who place a great emphasis when talking about marriage on the ‘Companionship and breeding’ side, and from my perspective I regard this as unfair for those in favour of such notions and their partners.
Lack of love will make us commit many inhumane and uncivilized actions against our partners; can you imagine what unloving spouse can do to their partner if the relationship fails?!
Some who lack the courage and love to inform their partner face to face that the relationship isn’t working anymore can choose to send that via a TWEET!
Let us mend our relationships and perspectives and choose love over anything else every time!
Finally, I don’t know where we are heading to when we subtract love from the equation of life and marriage, may God save us from ourselves!
